My dear friends party or knotts very farm with my boyfriend?

I think you answered that question for yourself without knowing it. It sounds like the most important thing to you is the baptism. Go. Your friend is VERY VERY important to you and i can see that. Explain to your boyfriend how important it is to you. But if you think a friendship is worth one trip to knotts then go with him and explain to her. To me it sounds like H and her baby is who you wanna be with because you said it yourself you love her.